Why Feel The Fear and Do it Anyway is Such a Powerful Book

I am a book nerd. Always looking out for the next self-development I want to read, for two reasons – to become the best possible version of me and secondly I love absorbing the knowledge of successful people and the lifestyles they have created for themselves.

Below are the five biggest takeaways I got from this book. I had to highlight these points in my book as they are pointers I go back to again and again.

·      The mind is naturally wired to go into a negative state, which seems unfair but it is our responsibility to repeat positive affirmations to ourselves daily. The brain believes what you tell it the most and repeating positive affirmations on a daily basis will rewire the brain to think good thoughts. The crazy thing is that even when you miss a day of saying your affirmations, you start feeling off, so consistency is key.

·      If you want something in life, you have to take ACTION every day. No amount of manifesting will work if you don’t take daily action to move towards your goal, even if it is just a few minutes.

·      If something feels scary, feel the feeling and go out and do it anyway. Nothing grows from being comfortable, but huge success happens when you decide to take a little step out of your comfort zone regularly. Even the most successful people feel nervous going out of their comfort zone. Decide today what that one little thing will be to take you out of your comfort zone. Is it the uncomfortable conversation you need to have with your friend? That one little uncomfortable will be the first hurdle in deciding to speak your truth going forward and keeping things bottled up does not serve you and may just make you unhappy. Or people pleaser.

-       I had to have an uncomfortable conversation with a friend last week as I could feel her getting distant all of a sudden, I wouldn’t normally have done this years ago, but I feel like a ‘new me’ at the moment so I sent a message to her saying ‘something feels off, we are friends and we can be honest with each other but to that she insisted everything was fine. Even though I didn’t get the response I was looking for, and she didn’t appear honest about what was really going on, the feeling of just trying to clear the air and say how I felt was enough for me.

-       I have written a list of one weekly activity that will take me out of my comfort zone I always ensure I plan ahead and decide what weekly activity I will do. Last week was an eclair-making class. This was definitely outside of my comfort zone as I’m not a regular cook, and being in a room full of strangers can be

·      Visualise and act like the CONFIDENT you.

Think about what the confident you would be like and picture that in your head, then ACT like that. I find the easiest way to get my confidence back in nerve-racking scenarios if an act like I am in a play and I am acting out the confident person, as none of this is real. If you have an interview coming up, visualise the interview going amazingly well and how confident you come across. By focusing on the positive aspects of how you want to come across and NOT focusing on the negatives, e.g. ‘Omg, I feel so nervous about this interview.’